The Podcast

This week we are digging deeper into what our sense of self is and seeing how either a reflective sense of self or a solid sense of self show up in our lives.  All of the work we do here on the podcas...

Our sense of self, how we see ourselves, how we understand ourselves, and how we accept ourselves is core to our capacity to show up in healthy ways in our lives. When we have a strong sense of self, ...

Many of us, when we get divorced, create a story about our ex that keeps us stuck. And even if you're not divorced, you may have a story about your current marriage or family that keeps you stuck. Stu...

In his book, The New Rules of Marriage, Terrence Real talks about five losing strategies that we often use in our marriages.  I think all of us are guilty of using these, but when we are aware of what...

Some decisions are harder than others.  Everyone I have worked with or talked to who has gotten divorced says that their decision to do it was the hardest one of their life.  Whether it's divorce, or ...

Why is it that we can be so hard on ourselves for being human? We were created, by God, to be a human, and yet we can have such a difficult time embracing our imperfect humanity. When we can instead e...

We all seem to have this innate drive and desire to be right.  And yet, there's a pattern I often see that the more we are right in a relationship, the weaker the relationship is.  This is because we ...

Remember the analogy about filling our buckets?  I don't love that one.  And the reason I don't is because I feel it leaves us always in a scramble for keeping out buckets full since we're always empt...

It can be super easy to slide into a life that we're not passionate about.  I've heard so many people say that their life isn't what they want, but it's okay.  They have leearned to tolerate a life th...

Often in middle age we get really comfortable, and in that comfort, we neglect that inner voice inside of us that says we still have great things to do, that there is still growth and understanding fo...

One of the most important things we can do when we want to grow personally is to learn to be honest with ourselves.  And when we rely upon the phrase, 'I don't know' when things come up for us, we are...

Last week we revisited a concept called 'clean love', a space where we learn to love without expectations of others.  A question I frequently get when discussing clean love is, 'But aren't there inher...