The Podcast

It can be so easy to allow ourselves to slip into victim thinking.  Being able to recognize when we get there and understand how to move ourselves out of it is a powerful tool that puts us back in cha...

In our lives that are often filled with so much stuff and stress and busyness, it can sometimes seem improbable that we will be able to find rest.  And yet, we are promised that if we will turn to Chr...

Sione and I just celebrated our first anniversary.  Second marriages have a 67% divorce rate, and because that's not a space either of us in interested in, we have made some pretty intentional moves t...

Recognizing the value and worth of all people, knowing that there is no spectrum of value, opens us up to feeling more compassion and empathy and acceptance of others.  When we can recognize and embra...

Learning how to coach yourself on a daily basis is an important tool for helping you to align the life you are living with the life you really want to be living.  Today I share some of my favorite str...

Our brains have a natural tendency to always look for what is fair and what is equal. But when we're working to create a more intimate, close relationship, fair and equal is destructive. When our brai...

The relationship circle is a concept that helps us to stay in our own lanes and resist the temptation to try and take control of things that aren't ours to control.  When we more clearly understand ho...

This week my husband, Sione, joins me as we share a recent experience we had in which we had the opportunity to step into some pretty honest communication.  It took a lot of vulnerability, courage, an...

Circling back around is a technique that my husband, Sione, and I use in our marriage that allows us to apologize better and show up more as the partners that we really want to.  We incorporate the co...

Forgiving someone who has hurt us can seem like a herculean task sometimes.  The pain can run deep and wide and it can feel that if we forgive that we are condoning the behavior that was so painful to...

So many of us unintentionally engage in passive-aggressive behaviors, and it's hurting our relationships.  Today we are going to talk about 18 different ways that these behaviors show up.  When we cre...

When we want/need to have a tough discussion with someone, we can have a tendency to blame and accuse the other person, which generally tends to lead to defensiveness and a fight.  In this podcast I'm...