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#19 Coaching and my second marriage

When my previous marriage ended after 24 years, I wasn't very interested in getting married again. After 5 years of healing and working with my own life coach, I decided to start dating, and eventually got remarried in 2022. It was a journey with a lot of growth and painful awareness, and I wouldn't trade it for anything. 

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#20 feeling defensive?

All of us are susceptible to feeling defensive at times, it's a pretty human response to being blamed, criticized, accused or attacked. And though it comes easily, it's not such a helpful response. Learning to look for the truth in what is being said is a fabulous way to move into connection rather than contention when our defensiveness shows up.

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#21 Being Confident

Sometimes we talk about confidence as something we either have or we don't, as something that we were born with or weren't. But confidence is something we choose, something we decide, and something we create when we live in alignment and learn to trust ourselves. How you choose to live determines your confidence level.

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#16 How to Stop getting offended

Many of us spend a lot of time feeling offended by other people. And though other people do and say things that can be thoughtless and even hurtful, it is our choice whether to be offended or not. These are opportunities to either blow up a situation into drama, or self-confront and see ourselves more clearly.

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#17 Arguing with Reality

We have a tendency to think that a lot of things in our lives are facts when they are, in reality, just thoughts. Learning to identify the actual facts empowers us see more clearly the direction we want to go and understand that pushing against them will always be a losing battle.

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#18 How to Live BIG

I love the idea that Brene Brown teaches about Living BIG - living with boundaries, living with integrity, and living with generosity. When we can understand and implement these concepts into our lives, we create more connection and peace.

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#13 Better Today Than Yesterday

Maybe the goal actually isn't to be better today than yesterday, but rather to keep moving in an upward trajectory. Some days are just tough, and it actually isn't an option to show up better than yesterday when everything fell in place. Offering ourselves grace during this up and down journey of life while knowing we'll figure it out is a much more peaceful place to reside.

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#14 Your Next Best Self

The path of growth into the next best version of ourselves is not a comfortable one. Our primitive brain is always vying for safety and comfort and will do what it can to sabotage our growth efforts. But when we have a compelling enough 'why', our prefrontal cortex can override the panicky primitive brain and get us to the next best version of ourselves.

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#15 The What and Why of Boundaries

Though the concept of boundaries has become a bit of a buzz word in our culture, there is still a lot of confusion about what boundaries really are and why they are important. They are not about controlling another person's behavior, but about creating a space where we feel safe enough to open our hearts to love .

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#10 Keeping the Peace in Your Relationships

Many of the women in our generation were taught that peace in the home was the ultimate objective, and that we were the ones responsible for keeping this peace. And yet, in stifling our voices and putting our wants and needs on the table, we might have been keeping things peaceful outwardly, but we were not at peace inwardly. Learning to be honest and show up equally is a vital skill to creating the peace we ultimately want in our lives.

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#11 Stop Shoulding Yourself

So many of us are in the habit of 'shoulding' on oursleves. This is the place where we often berate ourselves for things we 'should' or 'shouldn't' be doing. And though it seems like an innocuous phrase, when we should ourselves, we put ourselves in a victim mentality, being stuck in the problem, rather than a hero mentality, where we become solution focused.

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#12 How To Get Others To Change

If the people in our lives would just do what we suggest, life would be so much easier! And yet, it doesn't work that way. For some reason we are all wired to want to live our own lives and make our own choices. When we support others with love and kindness in their life path, they feel more acceptance and we feel more peace. We both have a safer space to look at our flaws and weaknesses and choose growth.

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#7 I Am Not Your Friend

When someone makes the decision to work with a life coach, they are not paying for a friend. They are choosing to work with someone who will be honest with them about the dysfunctional and destructive thinking and behavior patterns they see. So though I'm kind and loving, my job is not to be your friend.

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#8 Why Boundaries Are Important

When boundaries first entered my life I'll admit I was scared and intimidated. I've since learned that without healthy boundaries, there are no healthy relationships. A place without boundaries is a place where resentment and anger push out love and compassion.

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#9 Everything is Figureoutable

It can be easy to believe our brain when it says that things are too hard, that we can't figure it out, that we're just not smart enough. And yet, our brains were created to solve problems, and everything we encounter has a solution. Believing in our ability to figure things out is the first step to creating the life we want.

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#4 Avoiding Difficult People

Avoiding difficult people can feel like a quick fix to a challenging situation, but maybe there's another way to approach this situation that will be more productive in the short-term and also for our own growth long-term. 

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#5 Finding Yourself

It can be easy to be distracted and enticed by who and what other people are and to compare yourself to them. But learning to see, accept, and embrace who God created you to be is your path for finding true fulfilment and an engaging life.

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#6 Better Decision Making

Some decisions in our life just feel so big and difficult to make. Rather than trying to look forward to the end result of the decision, look instead at your reasons for making the decision and it becomes much easier to understand which direction will ultimately work the best for you.

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#1 How Gratitude Heals

Not surprisingly, gratitude is not something that comes naturally to us as humans, it's something that we need to learn and cultivate. And when we do learn it, studies have found that it has a positive influence on our mental health. What can you do to practice more gratitude?

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#2 Offering Grace for the Humans

It's inevitable that people in your life are going to do things that are hurtful to you or that you don't agree with. Learning to offer grace to others for things they do that you don't understand is a tool that will bring you a lot of peace in your life.

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#3 Maybe Nothing Has Gone Wrong

When we hit mid-life and look at where we are, it's easy to see that we are not where we thought we would be. And from this place it can be an easy jump to thinking that something has gone wrong or that we have done it wrong. But what if nothing has gone wrong? What if everything is just how it was meant to be?

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