How to Stop Getting Offended
Some of us spend more time than we'd like in a place called 'Offended.'
I want to offer to you that getting offended is a choice.
Now, your brain may suddenly want to start defending your offended position and say that it isn't a choice, that people say or do things and it's only natural that you get offended.
But hear me out.
Anything that someone else says is a neutral circumstance.
It's your thoughts about what people say that causes you to feel offended.
And your primitive brain, that wants so desperately to protect you, will often think something like, "Oh my gosh! They are so rude! I can't believe they said that to me!" when someone says, or does, something.
But just because your first reaction to a comment is to be offended, doesn't mean you have to stay there.
When you find yourself getting offended (or defensive, or resistant) to something someone says, stop and ask this question:
What is the truth in what they are saying?
If you really want to create less drama in your life, this question will change everything.
When you stop and look for the truth, and if you're really seeking to be self-reflective, you will learn something amazing.
You will see an opportunity to grow and progress.
You will see a place where you can love more and judge less.
You will understand yourself and your desires more clearly.
If you can identify the truth and make your response about you and not about what was said or done, you will see yourself more clearly and then you can progress more quickly.
Pay close attention this week and notice when you feel offended, or defensive, or resistant, and then give this a try.
I think you'll be amazed.
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