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#378 What Can Happen When We Don’t Set Boundaries

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Who knew that a lack of boundaries could cause so many emotional and mental struggles in our lives? Today I’m sharing with you an article adaptation from Dr. Henry Cloud’s book Becoming an Adult: Advice on Taking Control & Living a Happy, Meaningful Life.  Dr. Cloud is one of the co-authors of the Boundaries books, and he shared 22 symptoms that we can experience when we don’t set appropriate boundaries. I think you’ll find this fascinating – I did!

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Thanks for listening!  Want to learn more about this concept?  Check out these podcasts:

#7 Boundaries Part 1 on Apple on Spotify

#8 Boundaries Part 2 on Apple on Spotify

#9 Boundaries Part 3 on Apple on Spotify

#27 Healthier Relationships on Apple on Spotify

#47 Thoughts, Consequences, & Boundaries on Apple on Spotify

#139 Being a Martyr on Apple on Spotify

#140 Still Being a Martyr on Apple on Spotify

#174 Better Boundaries on Apple on Spotify

#196 How to Break the Blame/Defense Cycle on Apple on Spotify

#225 Shame, Blame, and Disempowerment on Apple on Spotify

#227 Feeling Obligated on Apple on Spotify

#240 Passive-Aggressive Behavior on Apple on Spotify

#250 Being a Victim on Apple on Spotify

#277 Your Spouse Is Not Your Responsibility on Apple on Spotify

#314 When Setting Boundaries Is Hard on Apple on Spotify

#331 Sense of Self on Apple on Spotify

#332 Sense of Self – It’s All In Your Head on Apple on Spotify

#333 Sense of Self and Dating on Apple on Spotify

#334 Sense of Self and Marriage on Apple on Spotify

#335 Sense of Self and Parenting on Apple on Spotify

#336 Sense of Self and Our Spirituality on Apple on Spotify

#337 Sense of Self and Our Sexuality on Apple on Spotify

#349 It’s Okay If People Don’t Like You on Apple on Spotify

#363 Breaking Your Over- and Under-functioning Cycles on Apple on Spotify

#365 Villains, Victims, and Heroes on Apple on Spotify

#375 Sense of Self and the Relationship Circle on Apple on Spotify

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