#363 Breaking Your Over- and Under-functioning Cycles with Jane Copier
Jun 09, 2025
When we over-function, we are stepping into other people’s lanes and taking responsibility that is not ours. When we under-function, we are stepping back and inviting people into our lane to do things that we are responsible for doing. These one-up and one-down behaviors are so detrimental to our relationships and not only stem from our own insecurities but also feed the insecurities of others and promote resentment in everyone involved. This conversation with fellow mid-life relationship coach, Jane Copier, discusses the impact of over- and under-functioning and provides great examples to help you see how you might unknowingly be adding to the dysfunction of your relationships.
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Podcast: ‘Happy in the Middle’, and specifically episode #83 How to Stop Over-Functioning
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Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts:
#110 The Cost of Being Right on Apple on Spotify
#216 One Up and One Down Relationships on Apple on Spotify
#271 Equal Partnerships on Apple on Spotify
#272 Stay In Your Lane on Apple on Spotify
#277 Your Spouse Is Not Your Responsibility on Apple on Spotify
#287 Equality in Your Relationships and Your Self-Worth on Apple on Spotify
#304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives on Apple on Spotify
#309 What an Equal Relationship Looks Like on Apple on Spotify
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