#435 Fair – Another Four-Letter F-Word

When we get stuck in the defensive cycle of judging what is fair and not fair in our relationships, we create destruction. Life has never been fair and it never will be. What if that’s okay? What if how we show up in our relationships has nothing to do with how the other person shows up? What if our peace has nothing to do with whether they are carrying the weight we think they should carry? When we step into this place of focusing on our behavior rather than judging theirs, we feel empowered and we create peace, and then from that place we can create the life we want. Letting go of ‘fair’ and leaning into accepting our spouse for who they are and how they want to be is the first step to clarity and peace.

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