The Importance of a
Good 'No'
Often when we talk about setting boundaries, people get all sorts of uncomfortable.
It can be easy to associate boundaries with negativity because it can involve difficult conversations and actions that can feel negative.
But it'sĀ important to remember that oftentimes the most difficult conversations will lead to the most positive outcomes.
In the midst of the difficult conversation, or saying 'no', it may feel that we are being hurtful to the other person.
But when the conversation, or boundary, comes from a place of love, of wanting to protect the relationship, it saves us from long-term harm even if it may sting a little right now.
When we avoid the discomfort of setting a necessary boundary, our frustration and resentment over the current behavior grows.
We continue to feel 'walked all over' and 'taken advantage of.'
And the frustration and resentment grows and builds up pressure.
And often, what eventually happens, is that we have a blow up about something, and the discomfort and damage is so much worse than if we had had a discussion earlier on.
Learning to have the difficult conversations, in healthy and helpful ways, protects and deepens our relationships and creates greater connection in the long run.
Doing the hard things now, makes things easier later.
Doing the easy things now, makes things harder later.
I can help you learn to have those difficult conversations.
I can help you learn to speak up and prevent frustrations and resentment.
I can help you learn to set boundaries from a place of love.
BecauseĀ living from a place of love always feels better.
