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#220 Being Low-Maintenance

I love low maintenance things, and I put a lot of value on being low maintenance in my marriage.  But with the tools I now have, I can see that in my previous marriage the things I considered...

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#214 How To Stop Being ‘The Fixer’

Do you identify with being a 'Fixer'?  Here's the thing.  We really do think that we're fixing things and making them better.  But the hard truth is that we're actually making things...

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#212 Healing Your Disconnected Relationships

Most of us have relationships where we feel disconnected.  Sometimes things have happened in them and now there is a rift and we don't know how to feel the same closeness and connection that...

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#198 My Last 90 Day Relationship

Last year I decided I was ready to get married.  Not because I thought it would make me happier, or a better or more worthy person, but because I really wanted to have the experience of...

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#197 Connecting Through Conflict

Conflict often gets such a bad rap. So, today I'm discussing how we can look at conflict completely different, as neutral, as people having different opinions and ideas, and how we can turn this...

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#196 How to Break the Blame/Defense Cycle

We've all been there.  Someone blames and the other person gets defensive, and around and around we go.  We breed contention, when what we're really after in our relationships is...

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#193 No Back-Burner Issues

Sometimes it seems so much easier not to say anything. So we take our 'issue' and we put it on the back burner and pretend it doesn't exist. But the thing is, things on the back burner eventually...

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#191 Why We Seek To Control Others

Trying to control others is often an innate behavior for humans. We think that if we control how everyone else thinks, feels, and behaves, that life will be easier for us.  But it actually...

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#190 Protective Walls

All of us have the tendency to build protective walls when we start to feel emotionally unsafe.  Understanding what is behind those walls and why we're feeling emotionally unsafe is the key to...

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#172 Peace Misunderstood

Peace is something that is often on the top of our want list.  We want to have peace in our lives, to be free of contention.  But so often we go about 'keeping the peace' by not being...

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#166 Imaginary Friends

Our relationships are being destroyed by our imaginations.  When we struggle to accept people as they are and live in the land of 'should' by expecting them to be something they're not, we are...

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#165 I Would Never Act That Way

Have you ever seen someone do or say something that just shocked you and you thought, "I would never act that way", or "I would never say something like that."  If so, you're not alone....

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