When It's Not Your Fault

You know those times when someone else's actions wreak havoc in your own life?

Yeah. Me too.

And I don't know about you, but I don't like it.

It can make me feel like I don't have control over my own life.

And that is absolutely a lie that my brain tells me.

Because I always have control over my own life.

I always get to be in control of how I respond to anything that happens in my life.

Our brains would like us to believe otherwise.

Our brains love to go into blame and crawl up in a corner and whine.

Our brains love to tell the story over and over about how it's not our fault and how someone else caused the problem.

But even it that's true, it's not a helpful thought.

It's a thought that will keep us stuck.

It's a thought that will bring a lot of unnecessary additional suffering and misery.

So, what's the best way to get unstuck and start moving forward?

Take responsibility.

This doesn't mean the other person gets a free pass for their 'bad' behavior.

It also doesn't mean that we condone what they have done or said.

It doesn't mean that we're okay with it and are not going to have clear boundaries.

What itt does mean is that we're not going to let them have control over our lives.

Sometimes we're responsible for things not because we're to blame, but because we're the only ones who can fix it.

We can choose to stay stuck in suffering and blame, or we can choose to take responsibility for moving ourselves forward and into a better place.

We don't have to stay stuck in a bad situation that was not of our making.

We get to be in control of how things play out for us.

And this is the best. news. ever.

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