There is No Peace in Blaming Others
Blaming is tricky.
When we first blame someone else for our woes, it can feel really powerful.
It's as if that pointing finger is shooting lasers.
But give it about two minutes until the indignant justification starts to wane, and then we feel pretty horrible.
We feel powerless because if someone else is to blame for our situation, they have to fix it for us to feel better.
And, I hear you - they really may be to blame for the circumstance we are in.
But even so, waiting around for someone else to fix the problem, even if they created it, just keeps us stuck.
Stuck is not peaceful.
Stuck is not empowering.
Stuck is frustrating and annoying and painful.
The key to getting unstuck is to take responsibility.
Now, I get it, you may not have been the one in the marriage to have an affair or the one who neglected to pay the auto insurance premium two weeks before the car accident.
But the only way to move forward out of stuck, is to do something about it.
Blaming does not qualify as doing something, by the way.
Here's a powerful truth bomb:
Sometimes we're responsible not because we're to blame, but because we're the only ones who can fix it.
Sometimes we want to spend so much time pointing fingers and figuring out who is to blame that we start to wallow in our own self-pity about the situation.
And if that's what you want to do, you get to do that.
But if you want to get unstuck and feel peace, let go of the blame and pick up responsibility and start figuring out solutions.
There is peace in responsibility and forward movement.
