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Hey there, welcome to Intentional Living with Tanya Hale. This is episode number 409: "Greatest Hits: Stay in Your Own Lane." Alright, hello there, my friends. Welcome to the podcast. As always, thank you for being here. I appreciate getting to share my journey of growth and discovery with you. And I hope that this is really helpful in helping you see your own patterns of behavior that are keeping you stuck, keeping you spinning, and maybe moving you backwards. Because that's what we do as humans. We just make these messes. 

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So a couple of things before we jump in. Next talk with Tanya is May 12th. These are just so great. Please make an opportunity to come to this free webinar where you can ask me all types of questions. Last time we had discussions. About three different people got coached on different areas of staying in your own lane. And it was just a really, really great discussion. I loved it. My husband actually even came to that and got to participate a little bit as a few people had some questions for him. It really is just open. You can ask us questions about anything, and it's just great. So put that on your calendar if you want, and go to my website, tanyahale.com. Go to the group coaching tab, and you can get signed up for the Talk with Tanya. 

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The next thing that I wanted to just remind you of is, if you listen to this podcast and you go, "wow, I want to learn more about that." Or if I make reference to a concept and you're like, I don't really know what that one is or I want to understand that one better, go down to the show notes. And in the show notes, about a year and a half ago, I started putting a list of, gosh, sometimes 12 or 15 different podcasts that have to do with the content that we talk about. One thing that's really great about having so many podcasts out there right now is I have a lot of background information to share with you and you can really expand your knowledge quickly because I have so much content for you to draw from. So check that out if you want to learn more about what's going on. 

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Today, I am doing a replay for you. I am doing the Stay in Your Own Lane podcast because that has come up so many times for me in the last two or three weeks. And I just think maybe this is the universe saying "you need to put this one back out there." And I actually was going to record a brand new one on Stay in Your Own Lane. And so I went back to listen to the old one to say, "okay, what are the pieces that now that this one's three years old? What are the pieces that I would want to fill in with and put more information out there?" And I listened to it and I was like, "I don't know, that's pretty darn good." So I'm just going to do the replay on this one because I just think there's great stuff for you to hear here. 

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And even if you have listened to this one before, I would love for you to listen to it again because I think what you're going to find is that every time we revisit something, it's like a spiral. If you're learning from it, you implement the concepts that made sense to you and it comes back around. And then you listen to it again. And you're going to hear and understand things differently because you are a different person and you are in a different place than you were last time. So listen to it again. And I would suggest that you do that with a lot of your favorite podcasts here and maybe even some that aren't your favorites, maybe just some that you haven't listened to, because there will be content that is going to impact you differently if it's been a small amount of time in between. You're going to hear it differently because you will engage with it differently. So take an opportunity to do that. And I hope that you enjoy this re-listen of stay in your own lane. 

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Alright, today we are going to be talking about staying in your own lane. So I know that I've used this phrase before, but we're going to dive a little bit deeper into what this means. So you know those times when you're driving down the freeway and a car in the lane next to you drifts into your lane, right? Think about your reaction. Usually for me, it's a little bit of, "whoa, buddy, pay attention. Stay in your own lane," right? Like I think they're doing it on purpose, right? And I've also  noticed that when I'm the one who drifts, my response is, and I usually do say this out loud, is, "oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. I didn't mean to do that," right? Like, it's so funny how other people drift on purpose. And for me, it's an accident, right? And I think most of us are like that, right? Our brains understand that for me, I didn't mean to do that, that it was an accident, but we go right into blaming the other purple people. 

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Sometimes when people don't stay in their own lane, it's a minor inconvenience, right? It might get our heart pumping a little faster, but no harm, no foul, right? We just keep driving and pretty soon we forget about it. Other times when people don't stay in their own lane, depending on where they are and how far they drift, it can cause something more intense. It might cause a knee-jerk reaction of us swerving to avoid getting hit or slamming on our brakes, which can cause us to swerve into somebody else's lane or maybe into somebody else's car and cause a bit of a chain reaction of swerving, or it could put the person behind us at risk of rear ending us with our sudden brake. And I think that most of us can agree that when driving, staying in our own lane is a good idea. It's the most effective way to keep everyone safe and moving and keep everybody calm. 

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So today we're going to talk about staying in our own lane in our relationships rather than on the road. When we stay in our own lane emotionally, it is also the most effective way to keep our relationships safe, to keep us moving in life, and creating peace in our lives. Staying in our own lane really is about minding our own business and keeping out of other people's business. The tricky part is that so often we see other people's business as ours. 

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For example, when an adult child tells us they no longer want to go to church, we may see that as our business. Probably partially because we have this erroneous idea that we failed as a parent, that it's our fault they chose this course and so it's our responsibility to fix it. And so we might feel the need to question their decision. "Are you sure? Like what's going on?" To make passive aggressive statements about how their life would be easier if they were going to church. Or we step into this place of being the super example of how amazing life is when we're going to church. And we could make all of these same moves if it's a spouse who decides to disassociate from the church or a friend or somebody like that or whatever decision people make, right? We tend to go into these places sometimes. 

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Now, I'm going to say I'm a churchgoer. I love belonging to a church and I love the person that the church helps me to become. I also love the opportunities that I get to ask spiritual questions, to push my spiritual growth, and to further develop my relationship with God. But here's the trick. That is my journey. Those are my desires. It is my chosen path. And I have the agency to make whatever choice for me that I feel is best. And this may not be the choice my children want to make. 

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In fact, two of my four children are no longer choosing church. And guess what? I get to stay in my lane. That means that I accept their agency, I honor their agency, and I don't try to talk them into changing their mind. I don't try to manipulate them with guilt or shame or passive aggressively keep putting it in their face. Just for clarification, the passive aggressive move here could sound something like, "oh, church was just so, so good today. I wish you had been there to hear Sister Clements talk. You would have really loved it. I feel bad you're missing out on the blessings of the gospel." Now, I know I said that with a little bit of snark in my voice, but passive-aggressive, right? Like, like we're coming in through the back door. We're trying to say things that are going to nudge. 

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Now, that's not to say that we can't talk about our church experience, but if we're saying it to nudge them, to create some guilt or shame, or to make them feel enough fear to change their behavior, that's not okay. That's passive-aggressive behavior. Passive-aggressive could also sound like, "oh wow, you're going through some really tough stuff. If you were going to church, I just know that life would be easier for you." Okay, notice the backdoor approach. Like, basically, what we're saying in a roundabout way is that they're not doing it right, that things would be better if they were making different choices. We're trying to be very indirect, but in a way that undermines their choices and decisions. And this is what we've got to learn to do. Staying in our own lane means that I allow other people to make their own choices without my interference. 

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So here's a question. What if we feel the desire, or even a prompting from the spirit, to share something? Okay, let's go in through the front door. Let's be transparent. Let's share our experiences from a clean place. That means we're sharing because we want to share a part of our lives, not because we're trying to influence or manipulate them to make a different choice. 

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Here's what that could sound like. "Oh, yeah, I just really enjoyed church today. Sister Clements gave a really great talk about love that I really needed to hear. I think I need to clean up some stuff for me. But tell me about your day. What have you been doing?" Okay, we can talk about church, but we don't have to push it and get in their lane and try and shove it on them, right? Or it might sound like, "oh, wow, that's a tough situation. I'm really sorry you're going through that. What are your thoughts about it?" Or we might say," what are you planning to do?" And if you really, really feel the need to give some advice, always, always, always ask permission first: "You know, I have some ideas that I think could help you. Would you be interested in hearing them?" Or, "I have an experience that I think would be pertinent, but it's a little bit spiritual in nature, and I know that's not really your thing, but would you be okay if I shared it with you?" 

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And if they say no, then they say no. Staying in your lane means that we respect their no, we respect their choices, even if they are different than the choices that we would make. We don't try and talk them into it, we don't keep bringing it up, we don't keep making small hints about it. Staying in your lane means that we respect and honor their agency to make their choices. And this can be hard when we see them making choices that very well might be making their lives more difficult. Our experience and perspective can help us see things that they don't. And so we have this desire to share with them our knowledge. 

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And still, we get to stand back and let them choose for themselves. None of us like someone else giving unsolicited advice or telling us what to do or trying to manipulate us into seeing things from their point of view. I have a two-year-old grandson and one of his favorite phrases is, "no, I do it." Okay? It is in us from a really young age to want to make our own choices. I had a client speak to me once about how to handle it when other people gave her unsolicited advice because it was none of their business and she didn't want it and she, you know, she felt that they needed to just stay out of it. 

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But the fascinating and really fun thing was that a few weeks later, she was asking me how to get someone to take her unsolicited advice because she knew better. She knew things that they didn't know and she knew that they needed this information. Really fascinating, right? And that's a total human thing to do, by the way. It's not just this client. I catch myself doing that all the time as well, right? But we can be so blinded by our own desires to help other people that we don't see it as crossing into their lane, into trying to undermine their agency to choose for themselves. And sometimes we get so blinded by our good works, our desires for the other person's happiness and welfare, that we overstep boundaries and we get in their lane. 

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The reason it can be so tricky is because getting in their lane often looks to us like we're just trying to help. And most of us really like to help other people. Super normal, super human. If you're seeing this in yourself, of course you are. This is such a human condition. No need to beat yourself up over it. Just take note, increase your awareness, and stay in your own lane next time. Maybe circle back around and just say, "whoa, you know what? When I said this, I'm sorry, that's not the person that I want to be in this relationship with you. I recognize that this is your choice and I had no business saying that" You know, circle back around. It's okay. That's what we do as humans. We make mistakes and then we circle back around. Okay? 

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So we've talked a lot about adult children and staying in our own lane isn't something just for adult children. It's for other adults too. Anybody really that we come upon, but let's what about our spouse? Okay, all the same rules apply. They're adults. They get to choose what they want, even if it's different than what we would choose. Very often I see this show up with my clients in the form of trying to control how their spouse is going to think or feel. For example, we might feel a little bit guilty going on a trip with friends because we're concerned about our spouse because they've told us that they just feel lonely and bored when we're gone. 

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Okay, guess what? They might be lonely or bored and that is theirs to figure out. That is in their lane. It's not our job to try and manage their loneliness or their boredom. Now this isn't to say that we put harsh words and unkind sentiments into their action line and we don't care if they have a tough time when we're gone. But you choosing to go on a trip without your spouse and them feeling lonely or bored, that's not yours to solve for them. Do you remember the Relationship Circle podcast? That's number 244. If you want to go back and re-listen to it or listen to it for the first time, good, good, good stuff. 

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And it goes right along with this. But each one of us is in a relationship, is responsible for our own circle, our own experiences, our own growth or lack thereof, our own happiness, our own sadness, our own loneliness and boredom. Our spouse is not responsible for fixing that for us. We might take those things to the relationship circle and put them on the table, but we don't put them there for our spouse to touch or to rearrange or to pick up and fiddle with or even to take back to their circle to fix. We put those things on the table so our spouse can know us better and so that we can know them better. But we don't touch their stuff and they don't touch ours. Think of the two-year-old: "no, I do it," right? 

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We don't want people to take over our things. And believe it or not, they don't want us to take over their things. I think it's so funny that so many women complain that when they tell their husbands about something they're struggling with, that the husbands want to step in and fix it. Like women are just like, "I don't want you to fix it. I just want you to listen," right? Women hate it when men want to fix their stuff. Okay? They hate it so much that there are memes and cartoons and whole TV episodes about men wanting to fix all the stuff and women just wanting them to listen. And yet, right? 

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So that would be men swerving into women's lanes, right, trying to fix it. And yet, we do the exact same thing all the time as women. We try to tell our adult children how to be happy, what choices to make, what substances they should or should not be using. We try to tell our spouse how they should parent better, how they should think about money, how they should feel and behave when their favorite team loses. And to be clear, they absolutely shouldn't yell or get frustrated or get grumpy and mope around for a few hours. 

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Alright, see how easy it is to get in other people's lane? So easy. And is it all well-intentioned? Absolutely it is. And I think that this is where the phrase, the road to hell is paved with good intentions, comes from. We have amazing intentions, good hearted intentions, and yet they are trampling on other people's agency. We are veering into their lane. It can be so subtle because our reasons behind veering really can come from a good and a loving place. But agency is such a vital part of God's plan for us. And when we get in other people's lanes, we are getting in the way of their agency. Really learning to respect others' agency is the key to staying in our own lane. And we want to stay in our own lane because that is where healthy, happy, strong relationships are created with everybody in their own lane. 

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Okay, let's chat about one more thing that I feel is so important in staying in our own lane, and that's this incessant need we have to be a good example for all the peoples. Oh, I've got a little bug be under my bonnet on this one, right? So I was told early in my life that I would be an example for a lot of people. And I believed it. And so I spent the next 35 years thinking that it was my job to be an example to all the people in every way. And I spent time stressing about whether my behaviors were setting a good example at church. I did my callings thinking about whether I was setting a good example. I worried about whether I was being the example my children needed so they could grow up in righteousness. I tried to be an example of how to keep a perfectly clean house and how to cook great meals. And I worried about setting the one-up example for my ex-husband who apparently needed a lot of exampling from my point of view, right? I just thought that I needed to set a good example for him. 

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And now I see so many problems with this viewpoint. First, if I am only living a particular way in order to set an example for someone else, I don't think that's a good reason at all because it's fear-based. I felt a lot of fear driving my choices because I was worried that other people would struggle and not make it back to God if I didn't set a good enough example. Like I felt that was my responsibility. I was worried that I would be held accountable for not showing people a better and a brighter way. Okay, well, now I believe that that's a horrible reason to make choices. I want to live the way that I choose because it feels in alignment for me, because I love God and because my relationship with Him matters because it's what I choose, not because it's been thrust upon me by an expectation. 

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So learning to live the life I choose out of love for me and love for God, rather than living it out of fear of letting somebody down, to include myself and God, or fear of being punished in the eternities for not doing my part, right? This is the place I choose to live these days, and it feels good to let go of the inherent people pleasing in that mindset. 

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Another struggle I have with being an example, this idea that I need to be an example for others is heavy laden with judgment for how other people are living. It ends up as me saying, "oh, they're all messed up. They're doing it wrong and I'm doing it right." Okay, ugh, right? First, it's a total one-up position for me to think that I'm doing it right and they're doing it wrong. And guess what? It's just not true. Okay, first of all, I don't think anybody has, I mean, there are some commandments, yes. But there are so many paths to create the same thing. What makes us think that there's a right and a wrong way to do it? And I have so many areas in my life that I do great and so many areas in my life that I'm a complete wreck. Okay? And who am I to judge another's path when I've got this huge beam in my own eye? 

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In addition, I have zero idea whether another person's path is right or wrong for them. A couple in one of my past words reminded me of this. He had left the church as a teenager, and I'm sure that his parents were praying all the time, "oh, help him to get back on the right path," right? He left the church. He eventually married a woman who, after about, I don't know, 10 or 12 years probably of marriage, she ended up joining the church. And they were an amazing couple. They were both really involved in church. They were loving. They were kind, so service-oriented, just an amazing couple. And maybe, just maybe, his God-given path included picking her up along the way. And meanwhile, everyone was lamenting his poor choices and praying that he would get on the right path. Maybe that was his right path. We just don't have any of that insight into anyone else's path. Okay, I don't have this podcast number, but if you go back to July of 2022 or maybe June, I did a replay of the greatest hits called The Right Path. Check that one out if you want to get a little bit more insight into that idea. 

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So moving on. Staying in my lane means that I love others and I don't judge their decisions because I have no idea why they're making those decisions. I have no idea what God thinks of their decisions. And guess what? It really is none of my business what God thinks of their decisions. I truly believe that God can take any decision that anyone makes using their agency and turn it into an amazing learning opportunity where that person learns what God wants them to learn. Never once have I read in the scriptures God saying, "you made a wrong choice, so I'm writing you out of the will." Like, "oh, you chose to get divorced. Yeah, writing you out of the will. Nothing for you." Right? 

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Every time in the scriptures, God is like, "okay, come unto me. Like, turn to me. And we'll clean it up. We'll take care of it." Right? We just don't know what people need to learn and how they need to grow, but God knows those things. And if he didn't want us to make mistakes and to make our own choices, he would not have given us agency, right? 

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Okay, a third struggle I have with being an example was touched on in the last one, and that's the one-up position I put myself in and the one-down position I end up putting everybody else in. I set myself up as the standard for which people should look in order to see how it should be done. Did that so much in my previous marriage. What a mess, right? That's just so presumptuous and laced with so much unrighteous pride. That's the kind of person I'm working really hard not to be. Okay, it's really hard to feel genuine, clean love for others when we see ourselves as above them, as so much better that they should look to me to show the way. 

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Now, this is not to say that I don't think examples are important. I have so many amazing people that I look to for examples in my own life, but they're not setting themselves up as examples. In fact, when I mention that I see them as an example for me, they're generally a little bit taken aback and they're like, "oh, oh, wow. Well, okay, that's nice," right? Like, they're just staying in their own lane, doing their own thing. And I'm able to look at them and see them as an example. 

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And there are some things in my life that I'm really good at. Might people see that and use me as an example for something that they want to move toward? Very possibly. And if that's the case, I'm really glad and really honored that I can be that for them. But being an example is a byproduct of my choices. It is not the goal of my choices. And I really believe that learning to stay in our own lane comes down to accepting the agency that God has made such a vital part of his plan. When I accept and honor the agency of others, it is so much easier for me to stay in my own lane. 

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When I struggle to accept and honor the agency of others, I feel the need to take over their choices so that they can make decisions that I feel are better for them. And oftentimes, they can make decisions that will feel better to me. Okay, whether those decisions are huge, seemingly life-changing decisions, or whether they are small day-to-day decisions, what other people choose is really none of my business. What is my business is how I respond to their choices. Do I stay in my own lane? Do I choose to be loving? Do I choose to be accepting, to be non-judgmental? Do I choose to create a space where they can show up honestly with me, honest about who they really are, and know that they're not going to be rejected and judged. 

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This is staying in my lane, focusing on my own behavior, my own thoughts and feelings. And what actions am I putting into other people's circumstance line? That's what I have control over. I have control of what I put in their circumstance line. I have zero control over what they think and feel and do. Letting go of that is staying in my own lane. 

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Okay, and this has been a huge learning curve for me. And I'm going to tell you, I didn't learn it till after 50. Okay, I'm 55 and I did not learn this concept, this idea. I didn't even think that I was crossing boundaries and getting in other people's lane. I just thought I was being super helpful, right? That people needed my help, that they couldn't do it without me, but they didn't know it. So I had to step in and let them know that they needed me, that they needed my help. Now, now, if people seem to be struggling, my goal is to offer validation for their struggle and extend empathy as much as is possible and to approach them with compassion. 

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I try really hard not to offer advice, to feel displeasure with their choice, to think that I could do it better, to get judge-y about why they are where they are. I'm not perfect at this. It's still a work in progress, but I am so much better than I was just five years ago. And if I want to share something I've learned or that I feel may be touchy, I always ask permission. Well, okay, "always" is probably a bit of a hyperbole. I really try to make sure that I always ask for permission, although I'm sure that there are people in my life who would say, I remember a time in the last recent little bit, right? But I'm trying to really increase my awareness. 

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So with my adult kids, sometimes they say that, yes, I can share. Even with my kids that are not spiritual, sometimes they're, and I say, "can I share something, you know, some of my own spiritual thoughts or experiences with you?" And they'll say "yes," right? It's not like they're anti-me or anti-spirituality. They're just not choosing that for them. But I can share, but I always ask permission first. Always, there it is again. I really try hard to ask permission every time. I'm sure I don't. 

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And sometimes, guess what? Sometimes my kids say no, that they don't want to hear what I have to say. And if they say yes, I work really hard to share my experience without being preachy. I use phrases like, "I'd just like to offer." And after I share, I let go of it, not having any expectation that they will do anything with what I've shared. And if they say no, I respect their no. I don't ask them if they're sure. I don't ask them again. I move back into offering love and support. 

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Now, before I learned to do this, I hurt a lot of relationships, thinking that I knew better, that I needed to fix all the broken people, that they couldn't do it without me. And that was not a place of safety for the people I loved. They were constantly feeling like they couldn't meet my expectations. They were constantly feeling like they were never doing it good enough for me. And in that, I became a very unsafe place for them. I know, especially with my children, because we have had this conversation, well, with three of the four of my children, we've had this conversation about how I created such an unsafe space for them. And they would keep themselves at a distance. They would not show up honestly. And instead, they would show up a pretend version of themselves so that I would be happy. Okay, they were showing up trying to manage my discomfort. 

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I have a podcast on that one too. It's called Imaginary Friends. Go back and check that one out. And I don't have the number on that one either because that one just came to my mind. But it's probably about two years ago. But do I really want my children showing up fake, pretending that there's something else? I don't. If I want to have a real, genuine, honest, equal relationship with them, they have to have the freedom to show up as themselves, knowing, not being afraid of my judgment. 

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And now that I've learned to stay in my own lane, my own lane better, my children can show up as them, not a pretend version of them. They don't worry that I'm going to reject them, and they feel safe sharing personal details with me. And it's been a beautiful, sweet part of my relationship with my kids that they will share things with me that they know I don't live that way. I don't do those things. But they share it with me because they know that I'm a safe space. And that's creating a stronger, better relationship for both of us. 

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And I'll tell you what, in moving in this space, living more in this space of staying in my own lane, my marriage relationship is 100% different this time around than it was in my previous marriage. Learning to stay in my own lane in this relationship has had a significant impact because there is a lot of acceptance of what my husband puts on the table and there's very little to no rejection. I'm really proud of what I'm doing and how I'm showing up here. It's pretty opposite of how I showed up before. But I'm able to just let him put his things on the table and go, "oh, I see. That helps me see you better. It helps me understand you better." And I don't feel the need to rearrange his pieces on the table. I don't feel the need to try and fix them up and make a couple of tweaks or take it back to my circle. My husband knows that he can share his deep and dark thoughts and struggles with me, and I'm getting pretty good at looking at the stuff on the table and leaving it alone. Showing compassion and empathy for them, but not trying to fix them. 

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Staying in our own lane also exudes trust in the other person's ability to manage their own lives. And trust is a foundational element of every good and healthy relationship. Okay, staying in your own lane is a life changer. Give it a try. Alright, pretty good stuff, right? 

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Alright, this is Tanya back in real time. Just wanted to touch base with you before I close this one off. Staying in your mind is so vital. We have to start figuring out how to do this. We have to start letting people make their own choices. And we just figure out how to honor their agency to be whoever and however they want to be. 

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Alright, if you need to talk with me, if you find yourself swerving all over in other people's lanes, let's chat because I can help you create greater awareness around it. I can help you stop being in other people's lanes, learn how to stay in your own. You have enough stuff to take care of on your own. Like you've got enough stuff in your lane to keep you busy for a lifetime. We don't need to be swerving in everybody else's lane to help them figure out their stuff. It's the mote and the beam concept, right? We need to stop trying to get the mote out of other people's eyes and worry about the beam in our own. We have a lot of personal work to do and we can let everybody else worry about theirs. Our job is to learn how to manage ourselves among everybody else's agency to live however they want. 

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Is it difficult? Absolutely. Is it frustrating and annoying and challenging? Of course it is. This is the challenge of relationships, though, is learning to be in the relationship circle with another person who is very, very different than us. If you need help figuring this out because you are wreaking a lot of havoc in your relationship, go to tanyahale.com, click on the free consultation button, and you can sign up for a 90-minute consult with me. So this gives me plenty of time to coach you on something that you're struggling with. And then we talk about coaching. And if you decide to coach with me, it's like a free session that jumpstarts your experience with me because you get that first one in and then we already have hit the ground running by the time you start paying for session number one, especially if we start the next week. 

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